weddings



Who Pays For What?

By Jesse Voyd Bottoms

The following is the traditional division for wedding expenses. Today, there are no rules in regards to financial responsibilities. The question these days of who pays for what boils down to who is most willing and able. It may be the bride and groom or either of their families. The key is to communicate and be realistic and courteous.

 

BRIDE & Her Family                      GROOM & His Family

©Wedding Gift for Groom                       ©Wedding Gift for Bride

©Wedding Ring for Groom                      ©Brides Wedding and

©Gifts for Attendants                                     Engagement Ring

©Personal Stationery                                     ©Marriage License

©Lodging for Out-Of-Town Attendants                    ©Gifts for Best Man/Ushers

©Bridesmaids' Luncheon                                 ©Bridal Bouquet and Going-©Reception Food and Drink                             Away Corsage

©Bride's Wedding Attire & Trousseau                         ©Boutonnieres for All Men in ©Invitations, Announcements & Postage Wedding Party

©Engagement & Wedding Photographs  ©Mothers' Corsages

©Rental of Sanctuary or Chapel             ©Lodging for Out-of-Town

©Organist, Soloist and Sexton                        Attendants

©Aisle Carpets and/or Canopy, Runner            ©Fee for Clergy

And any additional Decorating Costs               ©Honeymoon

©Bridesmaids' Bouquets                                  ©Rehearsal Dinner

©Transportation for Bridal Party to                 ©Shipment of Wedding Gifts

Ceremony & Reception                                   to the Couple's New Home

©Bridal Consultant                                         ©Groom's Formalwear &

©Music                                                         Accessories

©Videography                                             ©Wedding Cake

 

Wedding Budget

The percentages shown below are based on national averages of a $22,000 formal wedding. Some categories may not apply to you and your style of wedding. Some categories may not apply to you and your style of wedding; make adjustments where necessary.

 

                                                %                BUDGET                 ACTUAL

 

RINGS                                     15%

 

Engagement Ring                                            ________              ________

Bride's Wedding Ring                                     ________              ________

Groom's Wedding Band                                  ________              ________

 

BRIDAL CONSULTANT     8%

Consultant                                                    ________              ________

 

CEREMONY                    1.3%

Site Rental                                                    ________              ________

Clergy Fee                                                    ________              ________

Marriage License                                            ________              ________

Musicians                                                      ________              ________

Flowers                                                         ________              ________

Decorations & Rentals                                    ________              ________

 

RECEPTION                             40%

Site Rental                                                     ________              ________

Food                                                             ________              ________

Beverage                                                       ________              ________

Music/Entertainment                                      ________              ________

Flowers/Decorations & Rentals                        ________              ________

Dance Lessons                                                 ________              ________

 

WEDDING CAKE            2%

Cake                                                             ________              ________

Cake Topper                                                 ________              ________

Cake Knife                                                    ________              ________

Groom's Cake                                                ________              ________

 

ATTIRE                                     6.5%

Gown                                                           ________              ________

Headpiece & Veil                                         ________              ________

Alterations                                                    ________              ________

Shoes                                                           ________              ________

Stockings                                                      ________              ________

Lingerie                                                        ________              ________

Garter                                                           ________              ________

Jewelry                                                         ________              ________

Drycleaning/Preservation                                ________              ________

 

PHOTOGRAPHY                          5.25%

Engagement/Announcement                           ________              ________

Photo                                                            ________              ________

Wedding Portrait                                           ________              ________

Wedding Photographs                                    ________              ________

Wedding Albums                                            ________              ________

 

VIDEOGRAPHY                           5.25%

Videotaping                                                  ________              ________

Editing                                                         ________              ________

Overtime                                                      ________              ________

 

FLOWERS                                       3.4%

Ceremony                                                     ________              ________

Reception                                                      ________              ________

Bride's Bouquet                                              ________              ________

Attendants' Bouquets                                      ________              ________

Boutonnieres                                                   ________              ________

 

WEDDING STATIONERY              2%

& ACCESSORIES

 

Invitations                                                       ________              ________

Announcements                                              ________              ________

Wedding Programs                                          ________              ________

Thank-You-Notes                                           ________              ________

Maps                                                              ________              ________

Postage                                                          ________              ________

Napkins                                                          ________              ________

 

GROOM'S ATTIRE                       1%

Tuxedo or Suit                                             ________              ________

Shirt                                                            ________              ________

Tie                                                               ________              ________

Vest or Cummerbund                                     ________              ________

Shoes                                                           ________              ________

Accessories                                                   ________              ________

Other                                                             ________              ________

 

GIFTS                                       1%

Attendants                                                    ________              ________

Gifts to Each Other                                        ________              ________

 

TRANSPORTATION           1%

Limousine                                                     ________              ________

                  Valet Parking                            

                                                                

Other                                                           ________              ________

 

REHEARSAL DINNER                  2.5%

                   

The Bride's Calendar

A year before the wedding is the perfect time to start planning the Big Day. The following checklist can be used to help you stay organized.

 

Eighteen t Twelve months away from the wedding, you should:

 

●Make appointment with your clergyman. Decide on a Wedding date.

●Discuss with your fiancée and family how much you want to spend.

●Assemble your wedding guest list in consultation with both families.

●Pick a reception venue and make the necessary reservations.

●Shop for the engagement ring.

●Consider working with a professional wedding planner.

 

Eight to Ten month before the Wedding:

 

●Shop for your wedding dress and veil. Several fitting are usually required.

●Select china, crystal and silverware patterns and register them in the Wedding Gift Registry at your favorite store.